Monday, July 23, 2007
There are certain Rules to be abided by
Gift giving is usually a great thing.
you spend time and energy looking for the perfect gift for that person in your life, be it mother, brother, brother's cute younger boyfriend, friend's boyfriend who she is going to dump but hasn't and its his birthday so you still have to buy something because he doesn't know what's coming.
the point is, gift giving is supposed to be a good thing. it makes you feel good, it makes them feel good. its goodness spread all around. and, more importantly, that's where it ends. after the gifts are exchanged, and the thank yous and the pleasantness, that's it. you walk away, you go home, you feel good about yourself for a few hours, and that's it. FINITO. over.
i'm not that lucky. i apparently do not think through the gift idea to its final conclusion. i think of a gift and think that it would make a great gift, and i do not think through the consequences of the gift. i get stuck in the goodness of the feeling that the gift projects and this has kept me from mastering the gift giving skill that everyone else seems to be so acquainted with.
i gave a computer to someone. and this someone has gone through a lengthy life thus far, never having been exposed to a computer. it is not someone who can solve problems when they occur because they are afraid of something going wrong, or making it worse. so, effectively, when i gave the computer, i forgot about the fact that i would become this person's own, personal, IT person and "help centre" all in one. i now HAVE TO teach, and install, and fix, and fix, and fix everything that happens.
that's it, from now on, i'm getting ties, and socks, and candle stick holders.
you spend time and energy looking for the perfect gift for that person in your life, be it mother, brother, brother's cute younger boyfriend, friend's boyfriend who she is going to dump but hasn't and its his birthday so you still have to buy something because he doesn't know what's coming.
the point is, gift giving is supposed to be a good thing. it makes you feel good, it makes them feel good. its goodness spread all around. and, more importantly, that's where it ends. after the gifts are exchanged, and the thank yous and the pleasantness, that's it. you walk away, you go home, you feel good about yourself for a few hours, and that's it. FINITO. over.
i'm not that lucky. i apparently do not think through the gift idea to its final conclusion. i think of a gift and think that it would make a great gift, and i do not think through the consequences of the gift. i get stuck in the goodness of the feeling that the gift projects and this has kept me from mastering the gift giving skill that everyone else seems to be so acquainted with.
i gave a computer to someone. and this someone has gone through a lengthy life thus far, never having been exposed to a computer. it is not someone who can solve problems when they occur because they are afraid of something going wrong, or making it worse. so, effectively, when i gave the computer, i forgot about the fact that i would become this person's own, personal, IT person and "help centre" all in one. i now HAVE TO teach, and install, and fix, and fix, and fix everything that happens.
that's it, from now on, i'm getting ties, and socks, and candle stick holders.
The End of Privacy - Whitaker